Redbook's "10 Sex Tools Every Woman Needs"

Valentine's is upon us and the pressure is on to have a romantic evening. For some women, the prospect that they are going to be expected to be intimate with their partners is not necessarily something to look forward to. Sad, but true. If that is the case, women I encourage you to ask yourself why not? What is making intimacy a chore rather than a pleasure. Granted, there are going to be times when you're just not into it. So many things can affect our libido, being tired, kids driving you nuts, a bad day at work (although sex might be just the answer for that bad day!) but if you find yourself saying 'no' much more often than 'yes', perhaps it's time for you and your partner to discuss why.

Redbook's article is fabulous for giving you some ideas of things you might do to add the fun back into the bedroom. I really like #10, though. (Surprised I didn't say #2 was my favorite - a vibrator? While I'm all in favor of adding toys to your bedroom repertoire, it's more important to get things right with your partner first if there is an issue there.) #10 talks about honesty. Even if it's something smaller like you're feeling a little less attractive than usual because you haven't been eating well and you feel 'puffy'. Or something more serious, like you're hurt that he doesn't hold hands with you or spend romantic time other than when sex is involved. It's important to discuss what's going on in your mind. He might be imagining that you don't find him attractive anymore (yes, guys think that way too) or that he's not been satisfying you. You know how everyone can be - we make up reasons for what is going on that are often much worse than the reality. So talk!

One of the best things I've ever heard is that women want to have sex when they feel loved and men feel loved when they are given sex. That can be a problem! So find that emotional intimacy, then the physical will follow. (Men: Pay attention there!) Start with honesty - then add the vibrator :)

http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/10-sex-tools

Even More New Pure Romance Products!

Pure Romance wasn't done bringing us new products just in time for Valentines! Check out these great items! I love the Chocolate and Tie Me Up Tape especially!

Visit my website to see the rest of the items just out at http://www.pureromancebypam.net

Pure Romance by Pam BOGO Sale!

Pure Romance BOGO Sale A great way to get something for yourself or your special someone and a gift to give as well. Choose any item and receive a second item of equal or lesser value for 50% OFF! Two days only, Thanksgiving Day and Friday, the 27th. Must email me, call or text me to take advantage of this offer. Pam Loveland www.pureromancebypam.net 919-949-5208 pamloveland@pureromance.com * Offer good Nov. 26 at 12 a.m. through Nov. 27th at 11:59 p.m. $6 s/h and NC Sales Tax added to all orders.

Patty Brisben: Intimacy vs. Sex

I LOVE this post from Patty. The question I hear most often at parties is how to get your libido back. In my opinion, it's not an issue of libido but an issue of intimacy. Like Patty says, you become almost like business partners if you don't make time to reconnect. For women, that connection creates desire.

http://www.vibrantnation.com/our-blog-circle/pure-romance-between-the-sheets/intimacy-vs-sex/

Pure Romance by Pam Naughty and Nice Gift Package

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A Special Gift to my Pure Romance Hostesses for December

To celebrate this holiday season and help you with your holiday shopping, I am offering Hostesses in the month December any item of their choice at 50% off. This is a great way to get that toy YOU always wanted, while using your hostess credits to shop for family and friends. Hot heart massager, soy massage candles, men's Ego shaving set and many other items make great holiday gifts.

Don't forget we can do an open house where your guests, men and women, can come and go. With an open house, you don't even have to kick the kids out since no toys will be displayed or demonstrated. We'll display our great mild items in a Holiday shopping theme then they can look at the more wild options individually when they order if they like.

Breast Cancer Awareness and Pure Romance

As I'm sure you are aware, this month is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month. There aren't many of us that have not been touched by this disease in some way. Please take this time to think about how you can take care of yourself, do your self-checks and get your mammograms. If you know of someone who is not doing so, encourage them. As women, we put often ourselves last on the 'to-do' list, but if we are not well, how can we take care of those we love? Visit http://www.nbcam.org/ to learn more or find out how you can help others in this fight.

I will be donating all proceeds from the sales this month of Just Like Me, our PH-balanced lubricant, to the National Breast Cancer Foundation. It is part of our special pink ribbon line developed to provide safe and effective products for extremely sensitive women. http://www.nationalbreastcancer.org/

Sexuality, Sensuality and Survival

"In 2006, Patty and Chris asked our research team at Indiana University to find out more about the sexual health needs and concerns of young breast cancer survivors. After all, they are a neglected group even though a growing number of women under age 50 are diagnosed with breast cancer. With improved treatment options, more women survive breast cancer - which means they need help after treatment so that they can have the opportunity for a high quality of life." (Dr. Debbie Herbenick, a research scientist at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion and a Sexual Health Educator at the Kinsey Institute. www.mysexprofessor.com)

Information was collected from 115 young survivors of breast cancer about what types of problems with their sexual lives they were having and if they would be interested in sexual enhancement products that could possibly help. They overwhelmingly responded that YES, they were interested in learning more about these products, lubricants, vibrators and massage products in particular. Their main concern was difficulty with sexual desire, arousal, interest, vaginal dryiness genital pain and orgasm. The products they showed the most interest in could help with those things. In addition, some needed special products that were unflavored and unscented due to their sensitivity from treatments.

Not only has Patty, the owner of Pure Romance, addressed these women's needs, she created an entire program dedicated to helping those women who have been diagnosed with cancer recapture their sensuality. Here is more about Pure Romance's Sensuality, Sexuality and Survival Program from Pure Romance's website at http://www.pureromance.com/sss/.

Our Mission
To help women recapture their sensual and sexual selves through education, empowerment, and safe product offerings designed specifically for women following cancer diagnosis and treatment.

Our Pledge
Offer safe products to enhance women's sexual experiences

Raise public awareness on intimacy and sexual challenges faced by women with breast cancer

Provide ongoing support through current literature and specially trained Pure Romance Consultants

Provide an ongoing support network for women and their partners

Develop and maintain programs to educate and support women living with breast cancer

Our Challenge
Approximately 200,000 women a year are diagnosed with breast cancer in the United States alone (ACS).

Approximately 50% of women treated for breast cancer suffer from sexual dysfunction, sometimes up to five years after surgery or treatment (Fleming & Kleinbart, 2001).

Many women find the degree of support and information they obtained from their health care providers regarding their sexuality following breast cancer treatments to be lacking (Wilmoth, 2001).


Intimacy and Illness Resources

Here are some resources recommended by Pure Romance and our educators.

Books:
Intimacy with Impotence: The Couple's Guide to Better Sex after Prostate Discease by Ralph and Barbara Alterowitz

Making Love the Way We Used To...Or Better: Nine Secrets to Satisfying Midlife Sexuality by Alan Altman, MD and Laurie Ashner

Couples Confronting Cancer: Keeping Your Relationship Strong by Joy Fincannon, RN, MS, and Katherine Bruss

Sex and Diabetes by Janis Roszler and Donna Rice

The MS Workbook: Living Fully with Multiple Sclerosis by Robert Fraser, PhD, George Kraft MD, Dawn Ehde, PhD and Kurt Johnson, PhD

Online Resources:
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists - www.aasect.org

American Cancer Society - www.cancer.org

The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction - www.kinseyinstitute.org

National Women's Health Information Center - www.4women.org

The American Diabetes Association - www.diabetes.org

National Multiple Sclerosis Society - www.nationalmssociety.org

Direct Sales Jobs Like Pure Romance are Recession Proof

USA Today just did an article talking about how direct sales jobs are helping many people through difficult times. (http://www.usatoday.com/money/industries/retail/2009-05-13-direct-sales-jobs-recession-unemployment_N.htm) I can personally attest to that fact. I began doing Pure Romance to help out with our own family's finances because I was tired of worrying about every little thing that came up unexpectedly. When you have kids, things WILL come up. We had just bought a home because we'd also just had a new baby 9 months before and we desparately needed more room. We also have two teenagers, one of whom needed braces and the other was almost driving at that time. Pure Romance has saved us on more than one occassion from being in a real financial bind. And the best thing is that no matter what happens with the economy or my full-time job, I have Pure Romance as my net.

So why Pure Romance versus the other companies out there? Here are my personal reasons:

1. I believe in the products. I could not possibly encourage someone to buy a product that I did not believe was a quality product. And a lot of people don't realize what high quality beauty products we sell, not just bedroom accessories. I absolutely love our line of massage and moisturizing products. And the products are more budget-friendly than a lot of other brands.

2. I believe in the company. I don't know how many people can work in this industry and say that they've personally met and casually visited with the owner and founder of their business. Not only that, but that they completely respect them and what they've built. Patty Brisben, her family, the people working in the corporate office, my fellow consultants - it's like a second family. It is unlike anything I've experienced in the corporate world.

3. I love how Pure Romance is about educating and empowering women. Don't get me wrong, we do a fun, classy party - but when that party is over, did you learn anything? Did you get at least one thing from it that will help you know yourself better and/or your partner better? We joke around a lot at parties, play games and do a great deal of laughing, but we also do a lot of teaching both during the party and privately afterwards.

There are a number of stores out there where you can buy adult products, yes, but they can be embarrassing and overwhelming. Having them brought to your home and their benefits and how to use them explained to you in a comfortable atmosphere goes a long way towards reaching out to women who may never have considered going into a store.

There isn't any make-up, cooking tool or bowl that is going to help a marriage. There are a hundred stores I can buy some version of those products in too - sometimes even cheaper online. What we offer is unique and the way we do it is what sets us apart from others like us.

Good Girls DO Initiate!

So I'm reading this article from Redbook on the 10 Things Your Man Really Wants in Bed (http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/your-man-wants-in-bed). I don't know why I always read these things, but I do. I just always want to know more. I think at this point between all the articles I've read and the sexual health training through Pure Romance, there's not much of anything that I haven't heard of before. Well, I take that back, I've seen some things on the internet that frankly I didn't want to see. But those were WAY out there - even for me and I'm about as open-minded as one can get. Aside from that though, I always want to see if there's another nugget of info I can find to not only help my customers, but my own marriage as well.

So the first item is "Initiate Sex More." *sigh* That is one of my husband's biggest complaints - when the mood hits, I do the usual flirty girl things and if he doesn't pick up on the signals I just think, "Eh, oh well, never mind," and go about my business. It doesn't help that our arousal clocks seem to be set at different times, either, but of course he is more than willing to adjust to whatever time I'm willing! ("Wake me up for God's sake woman!") LOL!

Obviously this is an area I could use some help on. I get a lot of, "I bet you have sex AAALLL the time!" at my parties. Puhleez. Sure, I've got all the paraphernalia in the world at my disposal (you can visit pureromancebypam.net to get some..haha!), and believe you me that variety is NOT a problem for us, however I am also a mom who works two jobs and goes to school. I'm TIRED! Often sleep sounds more like a hot date than having sex, no matter how great it is! And here is the other thing, believe it or not, I am a little shy about initiating sex. I know, I know...but like most women, I have physical insecurities and it's kind of like when you need to get your driver's license picture and you put it off and put it off because you're waiting for a good hair day? (*crickets*) Okay, maybe it's just me. I know it doesn't make sense because he could care less if I'm feeling 'puffy', my hair is flat or anything else if I'm offering him some lovin'!

There's also the fact that women are traditionally not the ones who are initiating things. We grow up being told that 'good girls' don't pursue sex while men grow up trying to perfect their technique to get in our pants. So then we get into a serious relationship or get married and 'WHAM', suddenly we're supposed to turn into these wild vixens. Let me tell ya, I feel like a deer in the headlights sometimes - what do I do?! So I do what we women ARE brought up doing - I flirt. I give him looks (which he interprets as take out the trash or some such at this point), I unbutton my blouse a little ("Hey honey, Maia must've unbuttoned your shirt when you were holding her - you might want to fix that,") or cuddle up closer ("Sweetie, are you cold?") We spend too much time rebuffing their advances that they are confused at this point! My husband's theory is that the only thing lingerie is truly good for is a definite signal that they have the go ahead.

If you need help, like I do, here are some other ideas on how to initiate sex with your significant other. Some are a little more vague than others - my advice is to really go for it and do the more obvious tricks! See, you don't need to break out the whips and chains to blow his mind - just let him know you want him to blow yours! ;-)

http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/say-yes-ll?click=smart&kw=ist&src=smart&mag=RBK&link=http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/say-yes-ll-SMT-RBK

Pure Romance is Giving Away Consultant Kits!

This is an amazing offer for you or someone you know who has recently lost their job, or is trying to get back to work after taking some time off and is having a difficult time. Pure Romance is offering women the opportunity to become a Consultant for free, but only to a select few. These kits are your business in a box. Everything you need to get started, demo items, training materials, books, order forms and so-on are included. There is no one out there that can't do this. It's just one more reason that I love Pure Romance and Patty - she really goes above and beyond. Learn more about being a Consultant and what the current specials are on kits if you don't qualify for this plan, but are still interested in making $1000 or more a month by visiting my website atwww.pureromancebypam.net/consultant. From Patty's Blog: Pure Romance has been very fortunate to be one of few companies who has been able to grow in spite of the recession, and that's why it was important to me that we find a way to give back to those who have suffered because of the economy. As a result, we've made a conscious effort to help those women who have been laid off over the past few years through a new opportunity. We have decided to offer 1,000 free businesses to a select group of women who have verified their unemployment and submitted their story of why they feel they would be able to achieve success as a Pure Romance Consultant. If you or someone you know fits the bill, please see the Press Release link in the News & Events section of our website for more information! http://pattybrisben.wordpress.com/2009/03/25/pure-romance-stimulus-kits/

Contact Me phone: 919-949-5208 www.pureromancebypam.net

New Pure Romance Products

They have finally announced the new products being released! Some of them will come out immediately, then more to come over the next month. I have to say that I'm on the edge of my seat waiting to try the new Sugar Cookies Whipped! I'm so happy that they are going to offer a lot of new variety packs as well, including bringing White Chocolate Fluff Whipped back for one of them! I know it's always hard to choose a flavor when they are all so yummy!

I will begin adding these a few at a time to my demo, so book your party in April to begin trying these new items.
pamloveland@pureromance.com

Just Like Me in new 4oz. packaging!

Coochy Variety Pack with Aloe

Body Dew Green Tea

Between the Sheets Vanilla

Aura Eucalyptus Mint

Ego Travel Collection for Men

Sensations Blueberry in new packaging

Bosom Buddy Vanilla Cupcake

Sweet Seduction Vanilla

Date Night Game

And more are coming soon:

Coochy Green Tea will be available the first week of April!

Body Dew Pear Berry in new packaging

Aura Sensual Massage Oil Mini Set will be available March 20th

Serenity Seductive Sage will be available April 13th

New Great Head Variety Pack will be available April 13th

Sensations in new packaging will be available March 20th

Sensations Mini Martini Set (Chocolate, Lemon Drop and Green Apple) will be available April 13th

Lickity Stiff Vanilla Mint will be available April 13th

Coochy Pear Berry in new packaging

New Dancer Pole will be available March 24th

Arousal Creams in new tubes will be available April 13th

X-Scream Bubble Gum will be available April 13th

Whipped Variety Pack (Rasberry Truffle, Sugar Cookie and White Chocolate Fluff) will be available April 13th

Back from Cincinnati with Energy..Oh and New Toys ;)

Can you feel it through your screen?! If you could see how fast I’m typing this out, you’d have some idea of how energized I’m feeling! (Well, now that I’ve gotten some sleep because there was none going on while I was there!) I’m so full of ideas and knowledge to pass on to my downline and customers I can hardly stay focused. Pure Romance brought us some amazing speakers to learn from: Dan Thurman, Lisa Daily, Karen Phelps, Tonya Grimes, Brian Biro and Cindy Kubica! From the very first night there, we were pumped and bursting with energy from the guests and just being with our fellow Consultants again. Let me back up though, even before we got there, we were having a blast on the bus with the local girls! Seriously, when they started blasting music and telling us we’d be ‘dancing down the aisles’, I slumped so far down in my seat trying not to get picked I was almost under it! Don’t get me wrong, I love to dance and dance really well….after a couple of drinks! :) All you girls out there that say, “Oh, I’m too shy, I couldn’t do parties,” you can now see how shy I am! You’re not fooling me - quiet girls are the craziest! *wink*

Some of you may know I’m a small town girl too, from Dodge City, Kansas, and I’ve not been too many places (yet…PR is changing that!) So going to Cincinnati was a blast. We went to the Reds game and I had probably the best chili dog I’ve ever had in my life (Nathan’s - they put cocoa in it??? Chocolate in anything is a good thing to me!) We spent some time shopping and walking around downtown then one of the nights at the Cadillac Ranch. It’s been a LONG time since I went out dancing until 2:00 in the morning, then of course a food run afterwards :) 6 am to get ready for our next classes was rough! But the next morning we were listening to Brian Biro and you couldn’t help but get energized (and cry!) The best part was the ‘board breaking’ where we put whatever it was that holds us back from being the best we could be on one side of a board then all of the things we would be rewarded with if we just pushed past that on the other then broke it! I told my friends “I don’t cry…I WON’T cry!” I cried. LOL!

And the new products. I LOVE when we get new products! It’s like waiting for Christmas to see what they’ll come up with next. I’ve come home with things like ‘H.O.G’ (Hand Operated Girlfriend - it’s actually very pretty, ladies!), Purple Hooter, Tag Team, Microbullet, Buzz and more! Of course I had to buy an extra too…one for me, one for you, one for me…hehe. Product testing, c’mon! My husband is such a giver - it’s hard being a Pure Romance Consultant’s spouse
So here we go - I’m pumped and ready to go rock some parties and change some women’s lives by giving them the opportunity to experience what I’m feeling now! I’m feeling the WOO!

An Alter Boy's Confession

Bless me Father, for I have sinned. I have been with aloose girl'.
The priest asks, 'Is that you, little Joey Pagano ?'
Yes, Father, it is.'
And who was the girl you were with?''
I can't tell you, Father, I don't want to ruin her reputation'
"Well, Joey, I'm sure to find out her name sooner or laterso you may as well tell me now. Was it Tina Minetti?''
I cannot say.
''Was it Teresa Mazzarelli?''
I'll never tell.
''Was it Nina Capelli?''
I'm sorry, but I cannot name her.
''Was it Cathy Piriano?''
My lips are sealed.
''Was it Rosa DiAngelo, then?''
Please, Father, I cannot tell you.
The priest sighs in frustration. "You're very tight lipped, and I admire that. But you've sinned and have to atone. You cannot be an altar boy now for 4 months. Now you go and behave
yourself."
Joey walks back to his pew, and his friend Franco slides over and whispers, "What'd you get?''
Four months vacation and five good leads.

Things Girls Don't Realize About Guys

We don't often think that guys run much deeper than a small puddle, but you might be surprised at how sensitive they can be or what they are thinking ... about us!

1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it'll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

4. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.

8. Guys don't care how gorgeous you are, if you're a bitch-- Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys' weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

35. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

36. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

37. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

Pure Romance by Pam
919.949.5208
http://www.pureromancebypam.com/
pamloveland@pureromance.com

December Kit Special! $330 in Product for $149!

It's finally here...the December Kit Special!

There is only a few weeks left to join my team! For all of you who have been thinking of joining Pure Romance this will be the last kit special of the year! A starter kit is on sale for $149, a $330 value!!!!! This kit includes:

1 - BASIC INSTINCT
1 - BETWEEN THE SHEETS
1 - DUST ME PINK
1 - EX-T-CEE
1 - MINI NIGHTS OF PASSION
1 - SWEET SEDUCTION
1 - WHIPPED
1 - DOUBLE TROUBLE RING
1 - G-MONEY
1 - SILVER BULLET
1 - SUPER STRETCH
1 - ERASERS
1 - BLANK BUSINESS CARDS (25)
1 - PR INVITATIONS (50)
1 - PR ORDER FORMS (50)
1 - PR PRODUCT BROCHURES (25)
1 - PR HANDBOOK
1 - TRAINING DVD

Start training now for our busiest time of the year...Valentines Day will be here before you know it!!! Think of all the couple that will be having a romantic Pure Romance Valentine's Day, all because of you!

Here are the steps to take:~You can sign up on line thru my Pure Romance website (http://www.pamloveland.pureromance.com). Just click "Sell Pure Romance", then the next window go to the left and click "Sign Up Now." There are 4 kits to choose from: $149, $250, $500, $1000. You need a sponsor, so click on the "working with a Pure Romance sponsor." This way you will have 1 on 1 training with me, and I will help you thru everything. Then you want to enter all my info that it asks for, that info on me can be found at the bottom of this bulletin. Then just continue on until you are done. Once you are done, email me or reply to this bulletin so that we can get started on your training. After shipping and handling you have just started your own business for $164. THAT ALL!!!! Wow!!!! You are on your way to financial freedom, and extra spending money for ONLY $164!!! What a deal!!!!!! Not to mention that you will be education women on sexual health and intimacy making each and every woman you meet feel special and sensual.

Call or email me for more information or if you need help signing up!

Pure Romance by Pam
Pam Loveland, ID # 18000
State:NC
919-949-5208
pamloveland@pureromance.com
www.pamloveland.pureromance.com