New Pure Romance Products!

Check out all of the new products, just released! Some are limited time only, so get them while you can! Email or call me to order at pamloveland@pureromance.com or 919-949-5208.

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A Special Gift to my Pure Romance Hostesses for December

To celebrate this holiday season and help you with your holiday shopping, I am offering Hostesses in the month December any item of their choice at 50% off. This is a great way to get that toy YOU always wanted, while using your hostess credits to shop for family and friends. Hot heart massager, soy massage candles, men's Ego shaving set and many other items make great holiday gifts.

Don't forget we can do an open house where your guests, men and women, can come and go. With an open house, you don't even have to kick the kids out since no toys will be displayed or demonstrated. We'll display our great mild items in a Holiday shopping theme then they can look at the more wild options individually when they order if they like.

Good Girls DO Initiate!

So I'm reading this article from Redbook on the 10 Things Your Man Really Wants in Bed (http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/your-man-wants-in-bed). I don't know why I always read these things, but I do. I just always want to know more. I think at this point between all the articles I've read and the sexual health training through Pure Romance, there's not much of anything that I haven't heard of before. Well, I take that back, I've seen some things on the internet that frankly I didn't want to see. But those were WAY out there - even for me and I'm about as open-minded as one can get. Aside from that though, I always want to see if there's another nugget of info I can find to not only help my customers, but my own marriage as well.

So the first item is "Initiate Sex More." *sigh* That is one of my husband's biggest complaints - when the mood hits, I do the usual flirty girl things and if he doesn't pick up on the signals I just think, "Eh, oh well, never mind," and go about my business. It doesn't help that our arousal clocks seem to be set at different times, either, but of course he is more than willing to adjust to whatever time I'm willing! ("Wake me up for God's sake woman!") LOL!

Obviously this is an area I could use some help on. I get a lot of, "I bet you have sex AAALLL the time!" at my parties. Puhleez. Sure, I've got all the paraphernalia in the world at my disposal (you can visit pureromancebypam.net to get some..haha!), and believe you me that variety is NOT a problem for us, however I am also a mom who works two jobs and goes to school. I'm TIRED! Often sleep sounds more like a hot date than having sex, no matter how great it is! And here is the other thing, believe it or not, I am a little shy about initiating sex. I know, I know...but like most women, I have physical insecurities and it's kind of like when you need to get your driver's license picture and you put it off and put it off because you're waiting for a good hair day? (*crickets*) Okay, maybe it's just me. I know it doesn't make sense because he could care less if I'm feeling 'puffy', my hair is flat or anything else if I'm offering him some lovin'!

There's also the fact that women are traditionally not the ones who are initiating things. We grow up being told that 'good girls' don't pursue sex while men grow up trying to perfect their technique to get in our pants. So then we get into a serious relationship or get married and 'WHAM', suddenly we're supposed to turn into these wild vixens. Let me tell ya, I feel like a deer in the headlights sometimes - what do I do?! So I do what we women ARE brought up doing - I flirt. I give him looks (which he interprets as take out the trash or some such at this point), I unbutton my blouse a little ("Hey honey, Maia must've unbuttoned your shirt when you were holding her - you might want to fix that,") or cuddle up closer ("Sweetie, are you cold?") We spend too much time rebuffing their advances that they are confused at this point! My husband's theory is that the only thing lingerie is truly good for is a definite signal that they have the go ahead.

If you need help, like I do, here are some other ideas on how to initiate sex with your significant other. Some are a little more vague than others - my advice is to really go for it and do the more obvious tricks! See, you don't need to break out the whips and chains to blow his mind - just let him know you want him to blow yours! ;-)

http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/say-yes-ll?click=smart&kw=ist&src=smart&mag=RBK&link=http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/advice/say-yes-ll-SMT-RBK

Is your relationship sex starved?

I read this heading yesterday and thought, “Nah….we have sex ‘x’ amount of times a week, we’re doing fine!” But as I began to read through the article, it made me wonder if my husband felt the same way? Was he getting as much as he wanted?

I can pinpoint at what points in our 9 year relationship our sex lives were in a slump. (Yes, even Pure Romance girls have slumps!) Those were the times when we fought the most, were more dissatisfied with our lives and were just generally more irritable. I kind of knew that this seemed to get better after we’d had sex, but really didn’t put enough importance on the connection. My husband and I have been through a LOT in our time together. Loss of a job, unexpected death of both of my parents days apart for unrelated causes, a new baby, a big move to another part of the country where we knew no one and didn’t have jobs waiting for us and so much more. Then there are the everyday little things - kids, jobs, bills, Kung Fu, birthday parties, etc., etc., etc. We hear all the time that we need to make exercise a priority, but what about sex? What would you think if someone said to you, “You need to have sex at least 4 days-a-week to be healthy.” Now that’s just a random number because, just like the article said, if two people are both happy with ABC sex (anniversary, birthday and Christmas), than that is fine for them. As long as they are in agreement - that works for them. But often that’s not the case.

Michele Weiner-Davis says:

“Sex is an extremely important part of marriage. When it’s good, it offers couples opportunities to give and receive physical pleasure, to connect emotionally and spiritually. It builds closeness, intimacy and a sense of partnership. It defines their relationship as different from all others. In short, sex is a powerful tie that binds.”

“Sex experts estimate that one out of every three couples struggles with mismatched sexual desire; one spouse is hot when the other is not. Because of advancements in medical and psychological libido-boosting alternatives available to those whose desire has waned, bridging the desire gap should, in theory, be a simple endeavor. Unfortunately, it’s anything but. That’s because millions of people with low desire are simply not concerned about or troubled by their lack of interest in sex. Nor are they particularly motivated to do much about it. Just ask their spouses!”

“Being complacent about ho-hum sex is a formula for marital disaster. When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is oblivious, unconcerned or uncaring, sex isn’t the only casualty; intimacy on every level becomes non-existent. Spouses stop touching affectionately, having meaningful talks, laughing at each other’s jokes, or connecting emotionally. They become like two ships passing in the night. Infidelity and divorce become all too real threats.”

So what do we do? It. That’s what we do. Most people feel like they need the feelings to be there - the desire and arousal - before they can have sex. But there are people that need the physical contact FIRST before they can have that desire. Catch 22 right? That’s why that even though it may take the ’spontaneity’ out of it, planned intimacy can be helpful. It’s better than no intimacy right? Often after you begin touching, kissing, laughing and just relax and pay attention to one another, those feelings will come back. I know that my husband has tried to give me a kiss before as I was running around like crazy trying to cook dinner, make phone calls, take care of something the 3 year old wanted and probably nine other things and I’ve given him a quick peck as I ran…or rather tried to run…by. He will grab me and make me pause and pay attention for just a minute, less than a minute, and that can mean a lot. We all need to slow down just a little and pay attention to ourselves and our partners.

Read the full article - better yet, buy the book. Consider it preemptive measures.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/sex_quiz.htm

Then take the Great American Sex Challenge:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/sex_challenge.htm

Dare ya ;-)

Pure Romance Consultant Kit Sale for May!

The new sale for Pure Romance's Consultant Kit is now available! Pure Romance has put together a fantastic new kit just for May that has our best selling products for your demos. Here is the new kit:

Start Your Business Today With Amazing Savings this May!

Choose from 4 Starter Kit Options:

$149 KIT (Limited Offer) - Valued over $250 (Pictured Above)

$199 BRONZE KIT (Regular $250) - Valued over $500

$399 SILVER KIT (Regular $500) - Valued over $1000

$749 GOLD KIT (Regular $1000) - Valued over $2000

WHY PURE ROMANCE?

Low start up costs
Purchase your kit for as little as $149 (sometimes less during kit sales)! Besides products, your kit includes all of your paper supplies to start your business: catalogs, order forms, invitations, and bags in which to put the customers’ product.

Outstanding support system
You will have many training tools available to you. A training manual and DVD are included with your kit. There are local, regional and national trainings and events. Soon there will be online training, demonstrations and quizzes on Pure Romance's corporate site. The staff at the Corporate Office is an invaluable resource. And of course, I will be there to assist you along the way.

Instant gratification (IE paycheck!)
You pay yourself after each show. You own your own business…no more waiting for a paycheck! Pure Romance Inc is not your employer, but your supplier. You start at a 35% buying discount, no matter which kit you buy. Your discount is in essence your profit. For a $700 party, you will have made $245 in gross profit. You can increase your buying discount by increasing your team.

What if I don’t like it?
For me, this has been more fun than work. But if you don’t like it - just stop! No hard feelings. You keep your income already earned, and any inventory left over. And the great thing is that should you ever change your mind, you can return to the Pure Romance family at anytime in the future!

What sets Pure Romance apart from the other direct selling companies?
Starting at a 35% discount (not including what we can teach you to increase that percentage!) with the option of earning up to a 60% discount! Our products are consumable to ensure repeat business! There are amazing incentives you would be hard pressed to find anywhere else: daily, weekly and monthly sales, monthly contests, override/bonus checks paid in money not product credit, travel, cash, jewelry, gift cards, awards, free product, and more!

What is the worst thing that could happen if I do this?
The worst thing that could happen is NOT trying! You have an excellent opportunity to be your own boss. You start earning at your first show. What is there for you to lose? Nothing!

Call me today at 919-949-5208 to visit my website at http://www.pureromancebypam.com/ to learn more.

Pure Romance Consultant Kit Sale for April!

April Pure Romance Consultant Kit Sale!

(click it if you can't see the whole flyer)

Most of us will pay a few bills, maybe do some things to the house and BLOW a significant amount of our tax return. When it's gone, it's gone.

What if you were to invest just a small amount of that into owning your own business so you can have extra money all year, rather than just once-a-year?! Pure Romance gives women the opportunity to do just that. What could you do with an extra $500/month? I've even made that in just one party! And seriously, how can you call it work?! I'm hanging out with a fun group of girls, playing games, showing our products through fun demonstrations and taking orders!

Consultants make on average $100-500 for doing a Pure Romance party the very night of the party! See my website to see an example of what Consultants are making. You can do one party a month or ten, you schedule them for when you want to work. We will help you all the way! Shadow our parties, come to our quarterly and yearly trainings, every Monday there is a training conference call, email boards where we share our ideas, and more!

What's stopping you?

Pam

http://www.pureromancebypam.com/

Ask Patty Article: Timid Around Toys

Dear Patty,

I recently got married, but I have a problem.... I am afraid to try new things, like a vibrator. Do you have any suggestions for me?

Thank you!
Timid Around Toys



Dear Timid Around Toys,

You have done the most difficult thing regarding your fear of trying something new… you asked for help! Great job! My first recommendation is to start slowly. Don’t try to pull out the big guns on the first try. You may find that you aren’t ready for it and quit trying all together!

My favorite thing to suggest for a beginner is the Super Deluxe Love Mitten, the Romantica Lotion with the Shake and Shimmy vibrator inside the massage mitt for an enhanced body massage. This is a great way for a couple to introduce a bedroom toy into a relationship in a comfortable fashion. Use the vibrator inside the mitt for all your back and body massages. When you are more comfortable with the Shake and Shimmy, slowly try massaging new areas of you or your partner’s body! You will find the fun of vibrators in no time and will be ready for an upgrade.

When you are ready, there are many different options to help you spice things up. This includes everything from lingerie, verbal expressions, crèmes and lubricants, toys, to strictly your attitude. But, you need to do a bit of research on all of your options before you make a decision.

And to be honest, www.pamloveland.pureromance.com is the perfect place to discover new things both for your relationship, but more importantly yourself. Just remember, you have to be comfortable with new experiences by yourself before you can introduce them to your partner. If you are still hesitant on using a bedroom accessory on yourself for sexual pleasure rather than just massage, try reading a wonderful book called Tickle Your Fancy. This book will take you through some really great information about masturbation to detailed information about the different kinds of bedroom toys available and how to use them. Once you have had a chance to look through this book you will be able to slowly try new things by yourself and eventually work your way to introducing them into the bedroom.

Best of luck!

Truly, Patty

Things Girls Don't Realize About Guys

We don't often think that guys run much deeper than a small puddle, but you might be surprised at how sensitive they can be or what they are thinking ... about us!

1. Guys are more emotional then you think, if they loved you at one point, it'll take them a lot longer then you think to let you go, and it hurts every second that they try.

2. Guys may be flirting around all day, but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about.

3. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.

4. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.

5. Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend or ex love-interest. Unless they're goin for the let-her-complain-to-you-and-then-have-her-realize-how-wonderful-and-nice-you-are method.

6. A guy who likes you wants to be the only guy you talk to.

7. Boyfriends need to be reassured often that they're still loved.

8. Guys don't care how gorgeous you are, if you're a bitch-- Goodbye.

9. Giving a guy a hanging message like "You know what?!..uh...nevermind.." would make him jump to a conclusion that is far from what you are thinking. And he'll assume he did something wrong and he'll obsess about it trying to figure it out.

10. Girls are guys' weaknesses.

11. Guys are very open about themselves.

12. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice.

13. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.14. Guys love you more than you love them.

15. Guys use words like hot or cute to describe girls. They rarely use beautiful or gorgeous. If a guy uses that, he loves you or likes you a whole hell of a lot.

16. No matter how much guys talk about asses and boobs, personality is key.

17. Guys worry about the thin line between being compassionate and being whipped.

18. Guys think WAY too much. One small thing a girl does, even if she doesn't notice it can make the guy think about it for hours, trying to figure out what it meant.

19. If the guy does something stupid in front of the girl, he will think about it for the next couple days or until the next time he spends time with the girl.

20. If a guy looks unusually calm and laid back, he's probably faking it and is spazzing inside.

21. When a guy says he is going crazy about the girl, he really is. Guys rarely say that.

22. When a guy asks you to leave him alone, he's just actually saying, "Please come and listen to me."

23. If a guy starts to talk seriously, listen to him. It doesn't happen that often, so when it does, you know something's up.

24. When a guy tells you that you are beautiful, don't say you aren't. It makes them want to stop telling you because they don't want you to disagree with them.

25. When a guy looks at you for longer than a second, he's definitely thinking something.

26. A guy has more problems than you can see with your naked eyes.

27. Don't be a snob. Guys can be intimidated and give up easily.

28. Guys talk about girls more than girls talk about guys.

29. Guys really think that girls are strange and have unpredictable decisions and are MAD confusing but somehow are drawn even more to them.

30. A guy would give his right nut to be able to read a girl's mind for a day.

31. No guy can handle all his problems on his own. He's just too stubborn to admit it.

32. Not all guys are assholes. Just because ONE is a jackass doesnt mean he represents ALL of them.

33. They love it when girls talk about their boobs.

34. Even if they refuse it all guys are ticklish on the ribs.

35. Guys love neck rubs and if he lets you keep doing it ..it means that he really likes you or his neck really hurts.

36. When a guy sacrifices his sleep and health just to be with you, he really likes you and wants to be with you as much as possible.

37. Even if you dump a guy months ago and he loved you he probably still does and if he had one wish it would be you to come back into his life.

Pure Romance by Pam
919.949.5208
http://www.pureromancebypam.com/
pamloveland@pureromance.com