Ask Patty Article: Timid Around Toys

Dear Patty,

I recently got married, but I have a problem.... I am afraid to try new things, like a vibrator. Do you have any suggestions for me?

Thank you!
Timid Around Toys



Dear Timid Around Toys,

You have done the most difficult thing regarding your fear of trying something new… you asked for help! Great job! My first recommendation is to start slowly. Don’t try to pull out the big guns on the first try. You may find that you aren’t ready for it and quit trying all together!

My favorite thing to suggest for a beginner is the Super Deluxe Love Mitten, the Romantica Lotion with the Shake and Shimmy vibrator inside the massage mitt for an enhanced body massage. This is a great way for a couple to introduce a bedroom toy into a relationship in a comfortable fashion. Use the vibrator inside the mitt for all your back and body massages. When you are more comfortable with the Shake and Shimmy, slowly try massaging new areas of you or your partner’s body! You will find the fun of vibrators in no time and will be ready for an upgrade.

When you are ready, there are many different options to help you spice things up. This includes everything from lingerie, verbal expressions, crèmes and lubricants, toys, to strictly your attitude. But, you need to do a bit of research on all of your options before you make a decision.

And to be honest, www.pamloveland.pureromance.com is the perfect place to discover new things both for your relationship, but more importantly yourself. Just remember, you have to be comfortable with new experiences by yourself before you can introduce them to your partner. If you are still hesitant on using a bedroom accessory on yourself for sexual pleasure rather than just massage, try reading a wonderful book called Tickle Your Fancy. This book will take you through some really great information about masturbation to detailed information about the different kinds of bedroom toys available and how to use them. Once you have had a chance to look through this book you will be able to slowly try new things by yourself and eventually work your way to introducing them into the bedroom.

Best of luck!

Truly, Patty