Pure Romance Half Price Kit Sale Extended!

Pure Romance has just announced that they will extend the Consultant start up kit sale until February 14th! Can you imagine a more appropriate Valentine's gift to request from your sweetie? A chance to own your own business, make $150-400 (or more) a party and get your own personal Pure Romance products at cost! Visit my website to learn more or contact me at pamloveland@pureromance.com

Even More New Pure Romance Products!

Pure Romance wasn't done bringing us new products just in time for Valentines! Check out these great items! I love the Chocolate and Tie Me Up Tape especially!

Visit my website to see the rest of the items just out at http://www.pureromancebypam.net

Pure Romance by Pam BOGO Sale!

Pure Romance BOGO Sale A great way to get something for yourself or your special someone and a gift to give as well. Choose any item and receive a second item of equal or lesser value for 50% OFF! Two days only, Thanksgiving Day and Friday, the 27th. Must email me, call or text me to take advantage of this offer. Pam Loveland www.pureromancebypam.net 919-949-5208 pamloveland@pureromance.com * Offer good Nov. 26 at 12 a.m. through Nov. 27th at 11:59 p.m. $6 s/h and NC Sales Tax added to all orders.

HUGE raise from Pure Romance!

WOW!!! We just got a huge raise! You can start at a 50% discount now, instead of 35%, by buying the larger kit OR buy a smaller kit for just $149 and move up to a 50% discount with just ONE recruit! I am at 40% now with 10 team members, so that's a huge jump even for me when one more person joins my team!

YOU CAN BE AT 50% WITH JUST ONE PERSON ON YOUR TEAM!

http://www.pureromancebypam.net/Flyers/StimulusPackage.pdf

Call me ASAP to find out more!

Pam Loveland, www.pureromancebypam.net

919-949-5208

Buying your Sex Toys at Walmart?

More and more we are hearing about how sex toys are becoming more mainstreams, vibrators in particular. As in my blog yesterday, even the New York Times discussed in a recent article how the combination of toys being both more acceptable and more widely available is changing public perception. Women of all ages are becoming more knowledgable about themselves and how our bodies work. This education helps both them and their partners know better how to find that pleasure that we're all looking for.

LiveScience also posted and article just yesterday saying that half of all Americans use vibrators. And why not, I say? There are studies linking a healthy sex life with people having less stress, more intimate relationships and as the article points out, possibly even better health! ("In fact, female vibrator users were significantly more likely to have had a gynecological exam during the past year and to have performed genital self-examination during the previous month.")

Now I am not saying that you can't have a perfectly amazing sex life without the use of vibrators. Of course you can! BUT, like chocolate syrup on ice cream (as well as whipped topping, nuts and a cherry!), sometimes it's nice to change things a bit. And, sometimes it's even necessary. As we learn more about the body and mind, we are finding out just how different men and women's arousal and orgasms are. What's easily achieved by one person, may not be for another. That doesn't make one person more 'normal' than another any more than the fact that I struggle with dieting and my aunt struggles with trying to GAIN weight.

So whether you're trying to add a little spice to the bedroom or just explore how things can feel differently with arousal creams, toys and other bedroom accessories, Pure Romance is a great way to do that. Can you imagine asking the teenage kid in Walmart what a good choice for a vibrator might be? What about lubes...is this one more slippery or will this one for someone more sensitive? Women can get their girlfriends together to play games, sample edible products, and view all the different types of toys with a professional, educated consultant. It's a fun, comfortable way to just see what all the buzz is about ;)

Pure Romance in the New York Times!

Pure Romance in the New York Times!
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/06/28/fashion/28generationb.html

"The researchers attribute the widespread use to easier availability and a cultural shift away from the bad ol’ boy, Triple-X-rated sex toy industry. Vibrators are now sold at Wal-Mart, 7-Eleven and CVS"

Pure Romance Parties are much more fun (and private!) than buying your toys at Wal-Mart! ;) Call me to book a party or get help selecting a high-quality product!

http://www.pureromancebypam.net

Tools for Improving Your Sexual Health: Information about Bedroom Accessories

Tools for Improving Your Sexual Health:
Information about Bedroom Accessories
©2008 Pure Romance Inc. 161 Commerce Blvd. Loveland, OH 45140 1-866-Romance http://www.pureromance.com/

What is a bedroom accessory?
A bedroom accessory is a vibrator or dildo that provides stimulation to various areas of a woman’s body, including the clitoris, the vagina, the g-spot, and the anus. They are used to increase sexual pleasure, as well as aid in a woman’s sexual health by allowing her to explore her body.

Who should use a bedroom accessory?
Any woman who is interested in increasing her sexual pleasure or experimenting with new forms of stimulation can use a bedroom accessory. Sometimes, a woman’s health care provider will suggest that she use a bedroom accessory to help her meet her sexual health needs.

How do you use a bedroom accessory?
A bedroom accessory is used to stimulate the clitoris, vagina, g-spot, and/or the anus by providing pleasurable sensations. How a bedroom accessory is used will depend on the area of the body that it was designed to stimulate.

Not all types of stimulation are right for all women. It is important that women explore their bodies and determine what type of stimulation is best for them. Exploration should continue
throughout a woman’s life, because pleasures can change over time and as women age.

Pure Romance has created a full line of bedroom accessories for women. Please visit our Web
site, or talk to your Pure Romance Consultant, to find the right product for you.

50% off Pure Romance Consultant Kits only 10 more days!

There's not much longer to get our consultant starter kits at 50% off! And ladies, this is a BIG time to join Pure Romance. This is always a big time of the year for us, with Valentines then tax refunds, sales skyrocket.
Top that off with the influx of advertising from the corporate office, new products coming out in March AND the new show on TLC - HUGE! Get in while you can at this great price!

http://www. pureromancebypam. net/Jan09Kit. pdf

NEW WEBSITE!! Do not use old site!

Someone stole my domain name out from under me due to some miscommunication with my host/domain name provider and it expired then immediately was bought by a company that looks for prospering sites like my own to do such things with. Please don't help them out by going to my old site any more...my new site is the same, but with .net at the end. So use www.pureromancebypam.net. Thank you!!

Why some women struggle with orgasms.

75% of men and only 29% of women always have orgasms with their partner. There are many reasons that women have trouble reaching orgasms, with stress and anxiety being at the top of that list. Not just life stress, but actually worrying about whether or not they are going to reach orgasm can keep you from having one!

Believe it or not, having an orgasm can take practice. (Ah, darn, right?) It’s not something that someone can simply say, “Do this and it will absolutely happen.” While there are some tips that we can give one another about what works for us, it’s an entirely individual feeling and path to getting there. People vary so widely in what gives them sexual pleasure that there is no ‘normal’ or ‘right’ way to do things. If you think so, you are sadly limiting your experiences.
There’s only one way to explore what feels good to you - simply by doing it! Take some time either alone or with your partner and experiment with all the areas of your body. Try a vibrator and place it in different areas of your genital region to experience the different sensations you get. The clitoris has legs - 3 inches on either side of your vaginal opening - basically like a wrap-around porch! For some women, the exposed area of the clitoris just above her urethra opening is too sensitive to stimulate directly so placing a steady vibration to the side of it or on the ‘legs’ can be more comfortable.

For some women, the strong feelings that can accompany the onset of an orgasm can be overwhelming. The ‘loss of control’ can cause them to be anxious and lose the feelings. Try to remember to relax and enjoy the moment. Experimenting alone can help you feel more comfortable with letting yourself go without having to worry about a partner’s reaction or whether you’re ‘getting there fast enough’. Sometimes we feel pressured to ‘hurry up’ as he is doing his best to prolong his own orgasm. This much thinking going on is never a good thing during sex :) Orgasms definitely are an excellent end result, but getting there is half the fun! Being in the moment is the best way to actually get the result you want.
There are certainly ways to help things along a little as well. As I mentioned earlier, using a vibrator is the most common means of adding that steady sensation that is often necessary for many of us. The great thing about vibrators are there are so many different kinds and speeds. Clitoral vibes are just that…used strictly for clitoral stimulation either alone or with a partner. You hold it in your hand and place it in those spots you found that you liked that we talked about or for extra fun, let your partner find the spots with you! It’s very erotic to give someone pleasure and watch them while you do so. There are also G-spot vibes and dual action vibrators. Dual action are those that have a shaft as well as a clitoral vibrator and G-spot is of course for the G-spot.

Now the G-spot is a whole other thing that I’ll talk more about later. I hear all the time at parties that women want to find their G-spots and have a G-spot orgasm. It’s become so talked about that women are now feeling pressure to have these supposedly bigger, better orgasms! First of all, if you’re reading this and already having any trouble having a clitoral orgasm, don’t jump into the deep end of the pool just yet. The G-spot is, in my opinion, highly overrated. I don’t say this because it’s my personal experience, I say this because what the heck is wrong with the clitoral orgasm?! Also, for some women, stimulating the G-spot is NOT pleasurable and for some, the orgasm they finally may get from it is not that different or necessarily better than any others they’ve had. Again, everyone is entirely different….in a BIG way. But, while it certainly should be on the map of points of exploration, don’t make it the Holy Grail. I will talk more about finding your G-spot in a later post, though. (I promise not to take so long to write again!)

Another fantastic bedroom ‘accessory’ are heighteners. I talked about these before in my libido post, but they truly can change the whole game! You know how you might see a bowl of vanilla ice cream and you think, “Mmm…that looks good.” Then someone adds cookie dough to it and syrup and whipped cream and….well you get the idea. It’s a whole other dessert now, right? That’s what heighteners do. Suddenly that ice cream is irresistable! And you don’t want just one scoop…you want two and three, maybe even four scoups!

I got a little carried away there…but I really am fond of my Xscream ;-) We carry a book called ‘Tickle Her Fancy’ that is an excellent resource for women to learn more about herself, how her body works, about using toys for the first time, how to introduce them to the bedroom and more. And of course I am always happy to speak with you about any questions you have and make recommendations. Email me at pamloveland@pureromance.com or call/text 919-949-5208.

How do you host a sex toy party (and what do you get for being a host)?

If you’ve never been to the Howcast web site, you MUST check it out (after you’re done here of course *smile*). Here is a cute, retro-style video on How to Host a Sex Toy Party.

http://www.howcast.com/videos/1051-How-To-Host-a-Sex-Toy-Party

Believe it or not, it’s right! (Although some hostesses seem to think ‘guests’ should be listed under ‘optional’ as well.) The only thing I might disagree with is “invite your adventurous and open-minded friends.” Hmm…so how do you know which of your friends is ‘adventurous’ in the bedroom or not? If they invited you over for a menage a trois, then yes, she definitely is a candidate for an invite. But what about that quiet girl at the office who dresses demurely and is so sweet she almost makes your teeth hurt? Invite her too! Ever hear of ‘lady on the street, tramp in the bed’? What do the people you know about your bedroom play? Exactly.

The comment about inviting more people to get more free products is exactly right. Rule of thumb is that half of the people you invite will actually be able to attend. So if you invite 20 people, you’ll likely get 8-12. So let’s say 10 people show up. On average, ladies spend about $70. So, let’s make it easy and say 10 show, that’s $700. That means you get $70 to spend on your personal wish list. Plus you get a free gift from me AND parties of $700 or more get entered in a drawing for a $500 VISA card from Pure Romance! I often run specials, as well, for more credits (like 20% hostess credits for a few special dates I have left) and always give away at least one toy at the party.

The comment I hear at every single party was, “It wasn’t what I expected. It was a lot of fun and not uncomfortable at all!” or something very similar. If you’ve never been to our parties, or you’ve been to another company’s party, you will likely be surprised at how easy and fun they are. I always cater to my hostess and crowd - wild it up or tone it down accordingly.

I also hear a lot that Pure Romance’s products are a better quality than some of our competitors and the prices are much more reasonable. The biggest issue the girls have at the parties is trying to decide on which of the things they fell in love with they want to buy! There’s so much to choose from: bath bubbles, books, games, massage candle, hot heart massager, miracle oil, pheromone cologne, lotions, lubes and toys. Have a party to get more or be a consultant and get it all, and a lot of extra money!

Why I Love Pure Romance

I decided I wanted to be a Consultant for the same reason a lot of us do - I had been to a couple of parties, loved the products and when my sponsor talked about doing the parties whenever I had the time, it sounded like the perfect way to get a little wiggle room back into our budget. Now I’m definately not the type to stand in front of a group of people to do any sort of talk or presentation, and I had never ’sold’ anything before in my life. I’m the girl you see at a party clinging to her best friend or husband at a loss on how to start a conversation. I’m really not great with small talk. I am, though, the type of woman who will try new things and who wants to give her family as much as she can. So, in the beginning, I did it for them. We had a new baby and a new house to accommodate our growing family so there was often more month than money.

I got my kit and began watching the DVD showing example parties right away. I studied the cue cards included in the kit and the sexual health information every day. Then I did my first party for my girlfriends at my house - who else better to laugh with when I couldn’t remember which product was licked and which you did NOT taste! They’d forgive me :) We had a great time and I made my first profit that night. I was hooked. Once I started the party, it was just so much more comfortable than I thought it would be. I simply used the cue cards to explain the products. I did that for a long time until I got comfortable doing the demo without them.

But the money is not why I love Pure Romance. I didn’t realize when I started how much it would change my life and how much we can help the women we come in contact with. I’ve gained friendships, self-confidence, pride in owning my own successful business and I’m privileged to have women share their most intimate questions with me.

I’ve had many women, sometimes much older and sometimes much younger than me, tell me how they learned things about themselves and their intimate relationships they’d never known before. Often they talk about how comfortable it was being there with the other women and watching the demo, not at all what they expected. Then I get more intimate stories - personal stories that make my heart go out to these women.

I had a customer come to me once in the private ordering room wanting to know what she could do to help her feel close to her husband again. She had been on a cruise, a vacation where her and her husband were going to renew their wedding vows, when she learned of his infidelity and child from that relationship. She was disparately trying to work things out with this man, but couldn’t get the desire back for him that they both wished for. Obviously this is something they needed to talk to a professional about as well, but I was able to offer some suggestions to help them begin to work on their relationship. Another woman was new to parties and our products but was excited to try the couple she had chosen for her and her husband. She told me the next day that one of them didn’t work as they’d expected (common because it sometimes takes a little experimenting to find the right amounts of things that work for each individual - but the trying is part of the fun :)) but they’d had the most fun they’d had in a long time. They had talked and laughed and really enjoyed each other in a new way. Another woman came to me with the concern that she was unable to physically feel things the way she used to before she’d had treatments for cancer. She was a survivor who had never been comfortable addressing the sexual issues that she was experiencing with her doctor. This is common and the reason we have the Sensuality, Sexuality and Survival Program. We carry a line of products that are meant to help women get that part of their lives back but are made with their special needs in mind.

I could talk a long time about experiences I’ve had since becoming a Consultant as could any of the other Consultants. Just like most of us got into Pure Romance for the money, to get time with other women, to get out of the house, or because they loved the products, all of us found much more waiting for us at our parties. We are honored with being trusted with women’s most intimate questions and helping strengthen or rebuild relationships with themselves and their partners.

What do Pure Romance Consultants make and other questions.

I sometimes do games at my parties where everyone gets a chance to ask me questions about my job to win prizes. It’s a great chance for people who might be a little reserved about asking me privately to ask their questions in a more fun way and even get something for it. Plus there are always questions one person might ask that you didn’t think of. Here is some of the most common questions:

1. How often do you do parties?

It depends. I work full-time and have been going to college the last two years, not counting having 3 kids, so what is going on with those other things dictates how often I do parties. I believe in family first, so if I’m getting too busy to spend time with them, I cut back. I only booked two parties in July for that reason - I needed the break and family time. That’s the great thing about it, it’s your business so you run it as you want.

2. What does your husband/kids think?

My husband has always been supportive of whatever I wanted to do, so that wasn’t an issue for me. In fact, he’s an entrepreneur himself, so he is the one who inspired me to try having my own business. We listen to motivational tapes together and he helps clean my products after a party. Two of my kids are older, 16 and 12. We’re a very open family so they are fully aware of what I do, but it’s not ‘in their face’. They will help sometimes with things like putting labels on the back of catalogs. It’s actually helped our relationships a great deal! My 16 year old daughter talks openly with me about questions she has and doesn’t have some of the common, even dangerous, misconceptions about her body and sex that some of her friends do who are afraid to talk to their parents.

3. How much do you make?

Ah, this is the question everyone wants to know but are too polite to ask :) I don’t mind talking about it - I’m proud of the income I’ve been able to contribute to the family income! My commissions at this point are 40%, but that doesn’t count the things you learn to maximize profits, daily sales, free products, case sales and more. I probably make closer to 50% commissions buy buying smart. Below is a copy of what my retail sales are to date. So on average I make almost $1000/mo doing 4-6 parties a month, taking into consideration that some months it’s more and some months less, like when I took off in July. It’s hard to say what someone will make because the more you learn about the products, get comfortable doing parties and so forth, the more you can make. There are even regional differences in the average party sales depending on where you are in the state or country. Sometimes you’ll have a party where you make $50 that night and other times it is $400.

My Consultant Page Screenshot

4. What kind of training and support do you get?

Whomever you sign up under is your sponsor, or mentor. That person gives you everything you need to get started then makes herself available to you as you progress to help you with any questions you may have. We have a lot of meeting and training opportunities as well. As you can see from my image above, there is a lot of information on the website and in 2009, there will even be online training, videos and more so you can take their Pure Romance University online, or in person. We have local meetings, weekly conference calls, regional market trainings, annual trainings…you get the idea :) I can’t think of any other business that you can get into so cheaply and with this much training. Plus we’re all a team - we help each other rather than competing with ideas, exchanging products if we need something, support and more.

5. I don’t think I could do that - talk in front of people about those products!

I don’t even know you and I can safely say, “Yes you can.” I have never had my own business and had never spoken in front of people (frankly, it scared me to death!) before doing Pure Romance. When I got my kit, I watched the video with our top consultants’ presentations, watched the sexual health DVD, read all the cue cards about the products (you get CUE cards!) and did my first party for some friends as practice. Don’t get me wrong, it took a few before I started feeling comfortable and I still get nervous sometimes, but all I have to do is show the ladies what the products are for and chat with them. Not hard at all - fun, in fact! You’re not coming up with anything on your own, just explaining what goes where and why. A lot of us just go through the book from front to back or use cue cards too. Plus your sponsor is happy to be there for your first party to make you feel more comfortable.

I hope that helps answer some of the questions you may have. I know there might be more, but that’s some of the most common questions I hear. There’s a lot more info on my website at www.pureromancebypam.com/consultant and you may also email me at pamloveland@pureromance.com.

Don’t forget the kits are at a huge discount this month - the best sale we’ve seen in a long while. They are 75% off retail! So the kit with $500 in products is on sale for $125! There are three kits to choose from. Visit my site for more details.

How to Choose a Vibrator or Other Bedroom Toy

With all of the products out there, how does someone decide on what kind of 'bedroom accessory' to buy? Of course, Pure Romance Consultants are more than glad to help any time! I've also added a document to my website at www.pureromancebypam.com (on the home page and in links) that has some information to help get you started thinking about what you and/or your partner might like. Included are questions to ask yourself about what you want, product differences, myths, the mind/body connection for sexual satisfaction and caring for your toys. I hope you will find it helpful!

Pam
www.pureromancebypam.com

Sex Toy Parties Gaining in Popularity

This is a great article and video clip on the news from a Pure Romance party done in Charlotte by my 'grandmother' (in the business), Danette White.

http://www.wcnc.com/news/topstories/stories/wcnc-050108-mw-ladiesnightin.bcaf5845.html

Classy, fun and educational!

Pure Romance by Pam
http://www.pureromancebypam.com/
919-949-5208

Pure Romance Consultant Kit Sale for May!

The new sale for Pure Romance's Consultant Kit is now available! Pure Romance has put together a fantastic new kit just for May that has our best selling products for your demos. Here is the new kit:

Start Your Business Today With Amazing Savings this May!

Choose from 4 Starter Kit Options:

$149 KIT (Limited Offer) - Valued over $250 (Pictured Above)

$199 BRONZE KIT (Regular $250) - Valued over $500

$399 SILVER KIT (Regular $500) - Valued over $1000

$749 GOLD KIT (Regular $1000) - Valued over $2000

WHY PURE ROMANCE?

Low start up costs
Purchase your kit for as little as $149 (sometimes less during kit sales)! Besides products, your kit includes all of your paper supplies to start your business: catalogs, order forms, invitations, and bags in which to put the customers’ product.

Outstanding support system
You will have many training tools available to you. A training manual and DVD are included with your kit. There are local, regional and national trainings and events. Soon there will be online training, demonstrations and quizzes on Pure Romance's corporate site. The staff at the Corporate Office is an invaluable resource. And of course, I will be there to assist you along the way.

Instant gratification (IE paycheck!)
You pay yourself after each show. You own your own business…no more waiting for a paycheck! Pure Romance Inc is not your employer, but your supplier. You start at a 35% buying discount, no matter which kit you buy. Your discount is in essence your profit. For a $700 party, you will have made $245 in gross profit. You can increase your buying discount by increasing your team.

What if I don’t like it?
For me, this has been more fun than work. But if you don’t like it - just stop! No hard feelings. You keep your income already earned, and any inventory left over. And the great thing is that should you ever change your mind, you can return to the Pure Romance family at anytime in the future!

What sets Pure Romance apart from the other direct selling companies?
Starting at a 35% discount (not including what we can teach you to increase that percentage!) with the option of earning up to a 60% discount! Our products are consumable to ensure repeat business! There are amazing incentives you would be hard pressed to find anywhere else: daily, weekly and monthly sales, monthly contests, override/bonus checks paid in money not product credit, travel, cash, jewelry, gift cards, awards, free product, and more!

What is the worst thing that could happen if I do this?
The worst thing that could happen is NOT trying! You have an excellent opportunity to be your own boss. You start earning at your first show. What is there for you to lose? Nothing!

Call me today at 919-949-5208 to visit my website at http://www.pureromancebypam.com/ to learn more.

Pure Romance Consultant Kit Sale for April!

April Pure Romance Consultant Kit Sale!

(click it if you can't see the whole flyer)

Most of us will pay a few bills, maybe do some things to the house and BLOW a significant amount of our tax return. When it's gone, it's gone.

What if you were to invest just a small amount of that into owning your own business so you can have extra money all year, rather than just once-a-year?! Pure Romance gives women the opportunity to do just that. What could you do with an extra $500/month? I've even made that in just one party! And seriously, how can you call it work?! I'm hanging out with a fun group of girls, playing games, showing our products through fun demonstrations and taking orders!

Consultants make on average $100-500 for doing a Pure Romance party the very night of the party! See my website to see an example of what Consultants are making. You can do one party a month or ten, you schedule them for when you want to work. We will help you all the way! Shadow our parties, come to our quarterly and yearly trainings, every Monday there is a training conference call, email boards where we share our ideas, and more!

What's stopping you?

Pam

http://www.pureromancebypam.com/

"How To" Video on Having a Party - Funny!

I love this! It is a 'how to' video on having a 'toy party'. It's hilarious, but actually very accurate! (I would be cast as the 'sexpert' or 'master of ceremonies'...lol!)

www.pureromancebypam.com

March Kit Sale Even Better!

The Demo Kit for March Sale needed to start your own Pure Romance business has just gotten better! Pure Romance Corporate Office just announced they are changing their current sale so that instead of getting credit (amount depending on the size of kit you buy), they will actually take that amount off the purchase price of your kit. What this means is that you can buy a great starter kit that has everything you need: demo products, training DVD, catalogs, product info and more, for just $199! That's $500 worth of products for more than 50% off! This sale ends at the end of March.

If you're interested in being a Consultant or have questions, please call. I'll be happy to discuss them with you and do a brief interview to see if Pure Romance is right for you.

Pam Loveland
919-949-5208

Brisben talks sex toys, lube, vibrators

Brisben talks sex toys, lube, vibrators
Contributing Reporter
Published Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Vibrators, lubricants and dildos — Yale’s Becton Center for Engineering had never seen so much action in one night.

On Tuesday night, Patty Brisben, founder and CEO of the adult retailer Pure Romance, spoke to a full auditorium of about 250 in Davies Auditorium at a Sex Week at Yale event titled “Everything You’ve Always Wanted to Know about Sex (but were too afraid to ask).”
With the help of assistant Erin Lapham and a handful of enthusiastic student volunteers, Brisben talked through the variety of sex toys that she sells through her company, which is sponsoring Sex Week at Yale, taking place throughout this week. Her products, which include arousal creams, lubricants, clitoral vibrators, male stimulators and extras that she calls “foreplay items,” were spread out behind her in a vast array of colored bottles, pink feathers and glittery powder.
The Pure Romance team came to “educate men and women on sexuality, sexual discretion and how an ‘intimacy-enhancing product’ can be key to any relationship,” Brisben said. Yalies no longer have reason to complain about not having enough sex — according to Brisben, “everyone should take control of their own orgasm” through sex toys.

Brisben focused much of her advice, which was given with a cheeky tone and a knowing look, on the women in the audience.

“If you don’t know what you like, you can’t communicate to a man what you like,” she said.
Some of the more extensive discussions of the evening were on the various types of lubricants and vibrators. Brisben stressed the point that there is nothing wrong with a woman who needs to use a lubricant.

“Are any of you taking anti-histamines in here for a cold? Do you think that those only dry up this orifice?” she quipped, pointing to her nose. “No, no — those dry up a lot of other things.”

The catalogues of Pure Romance adult products that were passed around during the event display two full pages of vibrators, and Brisben spent ample time showing how both male and female Yalies can take control of their orgasms.

One lucky volunteer walked away with a vibrator named Bob.
“He is named after an ex-husband — but if he was built like that, he wouldn’t be an ex,” Brisben joked.

Colin Adamo ’10, one of the students coordinating Sex Week, said he thought the speech targeted a demographic that could benefit from the additional advice.
“Ladies at Yale are all really stressed,” he said. “Sometimes the guys are just going to disappoint you, and you need to figure out how to please yourself first. Women who masturbate are more orgasmic by themselves.”

Overall, Brisben’s presentation was very well received by both men and women in the audience.
Ian Marpuri ’11 participated in a demonstration of Dreamsicle arousal lubricants that are for both men and women.

“I really enjoy my new versatile toy,” said Marpuri with a grin. “I think this was a good demonstration — they’re giving awareness about alternate ways of exploring our sexuality — and it was really fun.”

Other Yalies agreed, but some were a bit more hesitant about getting down and dirty with the new toys.

“All the products were really great, and it was informative,” said one girl who wishes to remain anonymous. “But personally, I don’t masturbate, so this stuff seems really funny to me.”

A lottery of students who attended the event last night will take place this week, and the 100 winners will get tickets to Friday’s “Great Porn Debate” featuring porn star Ron Jeremy. But for many students, the new info and free giveaways were enough of a draw.

Lian Walden ’09 left the speech grinning: “I got a sex toy.”

The eight-day biannual Sex Week at Yale series of events continues today with appearances from stars of VH1’s show “The Pick-Up Artist.”