Patty Brisben writes about her personal experience with sex toys before starting her own company and reactions she gets now when talking with other business leaders:
http://www.womenentrepreneur.com/article/3456.html
When I began as a Pure Romance Consultant, I was naive perhaps, but I didn't expect some of the reactions that you can get when people find out what you do for your business. Don't get me wrong, it's a lot less shocking now than it was back when Patty did it I'm sure, but there are still a lot of judgmental people out there. I had a conversation with my new hairdresser yesterday at Hair, Body and Sole Spa in Apex about this. I was impressed by his openness to women attending these parties, because often it is men who are the hardest critics. They simply can not understand what it is like to be a woman and the complicated way our bodies and minds work. After all, I do not truly understand ANY of the male species myself, even my 12 year old son! So when a woman wants to bring 'extras' into the bedroom, sometimes that is met with some resistance. While I firmly believe that everyone has a right to their own opinions (I even do parties where I don't bring the toys out at all if that's what everyone prefers - that's okay too!), but I always wish for both men and women to at least try to be open-minded to the possibility that they might like bedroom accessories.
When I married my current husband, I knew nothing about toys, or men really. I'd been married before but hadn't been with anyone who was as open and knowledgeable as he is. He had taken time to get to know the anatomical ways in which men and women worked and was always open to knowing more or telling me anything I had a question about. He also was the one to make ME feel comfortable with the idea of having toys in the bedroom, rather than the other way around. It's this 'giving' in the bedroom that takes sex to a new level. If we are both concerned about the other person's pleasure, then everyone wins, right? This kind of attitude created an intimacy and closeness that I cannot even begin to explain.
Sometimes men feel like they should be 'enough'. Trust me guys, we fully appreciate everything you bring the to the table and no toy is going to replace you (well, at least heterosexual women appreciate you :). Women are emotional creatures, right? So what are the possibilities that we are going to 'bond' with a toy? Uh, no. Turn off the Sex and the City and come listen. We love the way you look, smell, feel and the emotional connection we get from our partners. Toys, lotions, lubes and such are just ways to bring a little fun to the bedroom. It also helps us focus on where we are rather than all the things we have running through our heads that still need to be done. Did you know that 80% of women can't reach climax from intercourse alone? That's right guys - bullets are our friends. Most toys can be used alone or with our partners - including bullets. You would add extra power to just about anything you use if you could, right? Your car, your power tools, your lawn mower...:-) Think of toys as NOS for the bedroom. Yeah, I said it. I even know what it is ;)
My point is, every woman is the the type of woman who buys toys. It could be your neighbor, your church leader, your wife, your friend, your mom, your sister, your daughter...sorry to put that image out there but it's true. It's only going to bring you closer.
* I feel the need to say that while I often talk about the guys in my blogs, these products are for anyone, regardless of sexual preference! You know that right? I am just speaking from my own perspective since that's what I know (plus it's easier to write than try to cover every relationship type :)
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